What is the most exciting aspect of being in a courtship?
The hugs and kisses? The friendship? The companionship? The romance?
I’d have to say it’s none of those. It’s the sanctity. That’s what’s most exciting!
Spiritual growth and holiness are at the center of my relationship with my boyfriend. Christ is at the core of our courtship. Not in a dull, mechanical way, but in an alive, organic way!
Do we ever get sidetracked and forget that? Sure.
(Life’s busy. And we’re two laypeople in the world, with in-the-world schedules and interests like everyone else… It’s not like we are monastic like St. Francis and St. Claire– though they are two awesome patrons of ours!)
Does it get hard not to get caught up in the “eros”? You bet.
(Just because we strive to be devoted Catholic twenty-somethings doesn’t mean we don’t feel physical desires normal to any romantic relationship! But instead of listening to the world, we try to be rebels and listen to Our Lord… and embrace chastity. Best decision for us.)
But when it all comes down to it, my boyfriend and I are building not upon our “eros,” but rather upon our “agape” — our Christ-like love for one another and our shared love for Christ!
Why? Because we figure that the “eros” is strong enough anyway. Focusing on it is unnecessary and tempting. However, building our “agape” is truly investing towards a possible vocation to marriage together! And stronger agape will make for stronger eros, so it’s win-win on both accounts!
It’s exciting to think that the whole purpose and wildly beautiful meaning of our relationship is to see Christ in one another, to love Him in one another, and to bring one another to Him.
We’re building up the kingdom of God… In one another!!
That’s something that will last beyond our time here on earth. How beautiful and how amazing of a gift is that task?! We are called to help one another to grow spiritually, to grow in holiness, to grow in sanctity!
Yes, my boyfriend is the cheese to my macaroni. In so many ways!
Yes, my boyfriend and I are each others’ first official sweethearts. (Don’t gag!)
And yes, we are best friends.
But best of all…
We are two saints in the making, together.