On Being a Hope-ful Romantic

While most people our age frequent bars, clubs, parties, the gym, and activity groups for potential spouses (photography! cooking! wine tasting!– the choices are endless!)– or simply hit on their food servers– Catholic twenty-somethings feel a bit more limited (understatement).

Looks, chemistry, and shared interests are all important, but we are looking for soulmates, in the true sense of the word. We ask ourselves whether prospects really have that “soul” component of “soulmate.” We meet attractive people, but the thought that we may not be able deeply to share the single most important thing in life to us -with them – our Catholic faith — leaves us wondering.

After all, as Catholic twenty-somethings, we believe that our vocation is our cross; it is the very way that Christ unites us to His Cross: His life, death, and resurrection. Marriage is a divine calling and a covenant with God, and therefore we enter relationships only with prayerful consideration. Proverbs 4:23 reads:

With closest custody, guard your heart, for in it are the sources of life.” God wants us to guard our hearts because our future spouse and children are the people to whom we will constantly give our hearts to in overcapacity and in overtime. Our hearts indeed will be the source of a beautiful shared life together.

We may become disheartened and despair as we envision the who, the where, the how, and (most especially) the when. We may wonder: “Do I have to go to the ends of the earth?”

However, we must cast our human anxieties aside and possess confidence that God will do His part if marriage is what He wills for us. Romans 8:28 sums up our reason to trust:

We know that all things work for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose.

God knows all of the purest desires on our heart for He has written them there. He is also always working on His end. God thus calls Catholic twenty-somethings who are called to marriage to be not hope-less romantics but hope-ful romantics!

It is attractive being a happy, fruitful individual, whether or not we’re happily dating or married. Instead of moping around dreaming about how we would build the King of God tomorrow through marriage and family life, we can use our talents and gifts to build the Kingdom of God today. It delights Our LORD’s Most Sacred Heart most when we do our best to fulfill the obligations of the present moment and to trust Him with our love life– or lack thereof.